If he is in his sixties, then he probably has about two or three wives. The few who do will drink in public but will definitely hide to smoke.If he is young, then you can trust that he is well educated and very sophiscated. He can show you real love, tell you a lot of love stories and is quite dependable. A Ghanaian man takes care of his parents, sister's children and the extended family.It’s just easier.” Bridgette (25) Congolese “I don’t mind as long as I am happy and loved, that is all that matters.” Dora (28), Zimbabwe Immerse within your own culture What I found was that those who immersed themselves exclusively in their own culture (i.e mono-cultural churches, parties, gatherings) – even if they lived in a very mixed society abroad – were the ones who were adamant that it was easier and preferable to date within their own culture.Chances are, you’ve already made an assumption about the nature of this post. This is not a post telling you to date an African man over an African-American man. It is about giving our motherland brothers a chance.The connection is just better because we can relate in many ways since we’ve had a similar upbringing.” Sarah (24), Congolese “I love my Ghanaian brothers, especially those who can speak my tribal language. Especially when telling jokes, it just doesn’t sound the same in English.” Nana (24), Ghanaian “I will be with anyone as long as they are compatible to me and I’m attracted to them. I’m British.” Christopher (28), Nigerian “As long as they are not Jamaican.” Bijoux (28), Congolese “Dating someone from your own background has far more positives than dating someone from another background, such as cultural understanding, speaking the same language etc. I’ve brought a Nigerian, Jamaican and Congolese home.I would prefer to date someone from the same country as me.For some, the idea of dating an African man conjures up a lot of myths and fears like the image of the over-controlling man.
Both Ghanaian men and women insist of me marrying a Ghanaian and staying in the country.In the big cities in Europe and USA, he goes to funerals in his cloth no matter how it is. As one uncle put it to me [I’m Congolese], “If you married a Nigerian, how would you cope if he wanted to retire in Nigeria? Could we really say that relationships would be easier if we were with someone of the same origin?Of course, you understand by now that this is a very subjective, yet fun, list.Let us know what your experiences have been in the comments! They have good manners and a strong sense of chivalry – something that is quickly eroding amongst all our home-grown American men.